Join Eric Bowers in transforming past relationship pain, coming alive in community and creating thriving relationships. This 12 session Telecourse recording brings together Eric's passions for Nonviolent Communication, Attachment Theory and Interpersonal Neurobiology.
Listen to Eric explain how resonant empathy is an essential component to building integrated relationships, followed by a short demo.
With Nonviolent Communication, Interpersonal Neurobiology and Attachment Theory, learn about our past relationships, do healing work for our relationship wounds and trauma, and envision how we want to be in relationship with ourselves and with others—family, friends and intimate partners, if we are interested in having intimate partnerships.
Part 1: Learning From the Past
In Part 1, you will learn about Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) and Attachment Theory so that you have a clear understanding of how you were impacted by your early childhood relationships, and how relationship patterns and behaviors that don't serve you get formed.
You will also learn about and begin practicing resonant, somatic-based empathy, a style of empathy that supports brain hemisphere integration, brain-body integration and deep connection.
- Establish group agreements that support needs for acceptance, trust, empowerment, authenticity, learning, support, belonging and fun.
- Meeting each other in partners and small groups.
- Integrated Relationships: What makes a relationship healthy and connected.
- Establishing connection as the foundation for the course.
- Introduction to Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB)-the study of how relationship dynamics impact our brains and nervous systems.
- Implicit memory: why we can get so easily triggered and what to do about it.
- Somatic-based Resonant Empathy: the foundational practice for this course.
- Attachment Theory and Relationship Boundaries.
- What are the different styles of attachment.
- Exploring our past relationship and attachment dynamics.
- Tools for creating healthy boundaries.
- Taking responsibility for our past.
- What do we want to do about our attachment challenges?
- How do we reclaim our past?
- A deeper understanding of our past and of why we had the challenges we did, gives us more power to heal and create what we want.
Part 2: Transforming the Past: Group and Partner Processes for Healing Past Pain
In Part 2, there will be less learning of new material and more time for process work. We will focus on transformative processes for healing past pain, processes that allow us to reclaim our wounded or traumatized parts, the parts of ourselves that didn't get the empathy they needed in order to move forward with supportive beliefs about themselves and the world.
- Healing broken hearts and past relationship pain.
- Holding our wounded and protector parts with compassion, loving our resistance and fear.
- Core Belief Work.
- Exploring our limiting core beliefs and how to compassionately transform them.
- Rescuing Inner Parts.
- Reclaiming lost parts of ourselves, parts that got left behind when we didn't have the support we needed to process conflict and trauma.
- Reviewing and practicing depth processes.
Part 3: Preparing for Your Next Relationship
Part 3 of Prepare for Love will focus on looking forward to what you want in your relationships, be they romantic, familial or platonic.
- What is your vision for a relationship?
- What have you learned about yourself and about relationships that is important to attend to in a relationship?
- What are the things you want to ensure you see and experience in a relationship?
- What is your dream for a relationship? What things about relationships excite you?
- Restorative Systems for conflict. I believe conflict is a natural part of life. We can co-create and find support for responses to conflict that restore and sometimes deepen connection, or we can default to unconscious reactions and patterns based on right/wrong, blame/complain.
- Learning and practicing a simple and powerful system for responding to conflict.
- Building a vision for you, just you. What kind of life are you excited about as a single person? How can you meet your relationship needs as a single person?
- Resonant empathy for your dreams.
- Course review. Integrating the learning. Reviewing the most important pieces through process and exercises.
- Moving forward and building on what you're taking away. Creating your ongoing support.
- Special surprise!
- Celebrations and completion.