The Blame-Free State

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The Blame-Free State

Trainer(s): Francois Beausoleil
Media Format: Audio Download
Duration: 5 hours, 47 minutes
Sessions/Tracks: 5
Production Date: 2014
Language: English

$27.00 USD


Blame can become a terrible habit – one that's extremely costly both personally, socially and culturally.

But everyone wins when you let go of blame.

Nelson Mandela's story is possibly one of the most well-known examples of what can happen when you let go of blame:

On May 10th, 1994, Nelson Mandela became South Africa's first democratically elected president. After spending 27 years in prison, he invited – as an honored guest – his last (white) jailer to his historical inauguration.

Many of us hold grudges for much smaller deeds; and as we do that, even if it feels "right", we are actually creating our own inner prison. Each of these grudges or blames adds a bar to our self-made prison cell, until there is no room for the light to enter.

Individuals like Mandela understand the power that lies in letting go of our blame for others, and by doing so he was often freer than many of us during his 27 years in jail.

Mandela said:

"There was a lot of cruelty which was practiced on myself and my colleagues. You must also understand that the warders are themselves workers, are themselves human beings, with problems, who are also exploited, and are the victims of the system; and one of our objectives was to insure that we improve our relationships between ourselves and these warders, help them in their own problems. In that way you forget about anything that is negative like hate.

You are dealing with human beings, and you want to live in peace with these people, you want them also to go and spread the same message to their own people, as we want to spread it to our own people, and in that situation it's very difficult to find room for hate."

—Excerpt from The Blame-Free State, by Francois Beausoleil

Mandela's unique story is deeply inspirational. What a sane response to an insane situation: looking for opportunities to reduce blame while imprisoned!

Francois Beausoleil's 5-session telecourse recording offers you the same opportunity: to explore what you personally can do to reduce the presence of blame in your life – whether it's blaming others, yourself or the situation. Wherever you are on your life-path, this course can gift you with new tools for keeping your heart open and free of blame.

If you'd like to learn:

  • How to move out of blame into peace – whether it involves others, yourself or situations
  • About the true cost of blame on your health and overall well-being
  • What you can do to capture the personal messages that are there for you when you're prone to blame
  • Tips for detecting – ahead of time – the behaviors you use to avoid being blamed…

…then the concrete approach taught in this course – designed to help you win your freedom from The Blame Game – has answers for you!

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